How do you measure success?

So I’m turning 25 in August and it’s really got me thinking about who I am and where I want to be in life. *Queue deep, thought provoking blog content.

Turning 25 has definitely made me a little panic stricken; not only is my mum constantly asking me what the hell I’m doing, how am I going to get a mortgage and when am I giving her grandchildren (I know) I have lately found myself questioning if I am settled in my lifestyle or should I be doing things differently. Am I where I want to be? After all I’m in my quarter century! Argh!

More often than I would care for I find people are more interested in my love life rather than how my business is going, the idea of a 25 year old, single girl with no husband or kids is too much to handle it would seem. Instead of asking me “How’s the love life?”, why not ask about my career and my business, my plans and goals? Surely that is the more interestingly conversation to have.

In life people will always project their own ideas of success onto you. Sometimes it is hard to do your own thing and not listen to what others see to be a right fit for you like parents, teachers, and peers. Ultimately, the way I see it, is that I live my own life the way I want to and have no one to answer to or look after but myself.

So this leads me to wonder about how I measure my own success, do I feel successful yet?

To be “successful” do I need to have lots of money, a house, a car, and expensive belongings? Social media and society certainly paints it that way. So this explains why at 25 I feel the pressure to be “successful” as a working artist. Not that I am the type of person who is swayed by expensive material goods, but I feel there has to be more to “success” than a fancy car in the driveway. In my opinion that is.

 Sometimes I certainly do feel great about my lifestyle, I feel content and satisfied knowing things are selling well or I’ve been asked to partake in certain shows. I make my own decisions and do creative things every day and work with new people. I pick and choose when I start and when I go home, its great and it is my own success. A happy work life is a part of success regardless of what your job title or role is.

 You cannot have the highs without the lows though, and at times I’ll admit I get the “Artistic anxiety” I spoke about in my previous post. During these periods I feel like maybe I should quit it all and get a 9 – 5 job with a polyester uniform and keep my mum happy knowing I’ll get that mortgage! I soon get over my drama queen phase as that sort of life style is not how I want to live, it is not a bad lifestyle, it is just not for me.

This leads me to explore the concept of success even further, I often find myself looking at others when it comes to defining success and what happened along their journeys. I love reading stories of how people started from nothing, worked three jobs or where at a dead end and then eureka!!!, they have that smashing business idea and work themselves to the bone to make their dreams a reality. I just love reading these! There is hope for anyone who works hard and believes in themselves and I’ve decided that this is the motto from which my success story will be built upon. Some of the people I read about are business tycoons, entrepreneurs and all round grafters and their stories spur me on to keep going. Winners never quit and quitters never win.

Take Ralph Lauren as an example, today a multi billionaire although in his youth dropped out of college and worked as a clerk at a department store. If he can make it why can’t I?

To conclude, success is defined by your own interpretation. It is up to you alone to decide what your own successes will be and how you can achieve them. There is no right or wrong answer, but it is important to mull over the following before you decide on your path…

Will material goods make you rest easy at night? Will you stop at nothing to have that fancy house and car?

Or perhaps you will be content knowing you are happy everyday doing something you love and the rest will all fall into place.

Good luck, C x



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